Pre-Valentine’s Party at Sanafir

When: Tue, Feb 7th, 6:30 PM Where: Sanafir Restaurant & Lounge 1026 Granville St. Vancouver V6E 1A3

What better way to anticipate cupid’s arrow day? Tuesday is half-price tapas and full-scale good times upstairs at Sanafir on Granville. At the beginning we will have a presentation on “How to Have the Happiest Valentine’s Day When You are Single” and then we will mingle and have some delicious food with exotic flavours. We will have games and door prizes. Several Meetup groups included, and limited seating. Join Vancouver Single Professionals to attend the party – it’s free! No non-RSVPed attendees will be admitted. RSVPs not honoured will earn you a year out of cupid’s reach! Donate a door prize (a book, a product, a service, a bottle of wine, a Gift Certificate, ect.) and get 3 minutes to introduce yourself or your business. Send me a note about your offer to discuss the details at tatiana@charismamatters.com See you there! Tatiana

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Handling Rejection When Approaching New Women (Guest Post)

This is a guest post by Dating Advice  Coach HogWild

Many guys get scared off from approaching new women because they create scenarios in their brains where the beautiful female yells at them or swears at them or files a complaint with her local television news program and they do a feature on you called, “Creepy Guys. Can they be stopped?”

But guys, your apprehensions are exaggerated compared to the real world.

Generally, this lady will speak with you. Sure, it’s possible that she might not do cartwheels and a cheerleading routine celebrating your arrival, but if she’s mentally stable, she will give you some kind of opportunity. If this woman is exhausted from men approaching her and you seem dull, she might end the conversation prematurely but she will be courteous.

If the woman is super annoyed or she’s just a mean you-know-what, then she may roll her eyes at you or tell you to take a long walk off a short plank into a cold ocean. But that is not typical and it usually has to do with her personality or her emotional state at the time.

So here is what to do if a girl is very mean to you:

If a girl is simply obnoxious to you, let her know that you recognize her insolence.

You can loudly proclaim, “Attention all within a mile radius! This girl is impertinent and irreverent as well a big meanie! She’s definitely more important than everybody else here!” Then laugh.

Now she’s feeling rather silly and if you’re clearly joking about it all, she will most likely break down and laugh at herself while saying sorry to you. If you are being angry about it, she will not apologize and she is likely to look into your eyes right before spraying mace into them.

A different way to react to a rude rejection is this:

Find a way to compliment her on her directness and boldness. Laugh it off and keep talking with her as if she hasn’t rejected you, but she obviously doesn’t know how cool you are.

The important thing to remember is that she has “rejected” you because she has does not yet know how awesome you are!

That is why you have to show her! You need to quickly demonstrate your intelligence, talent, humor, success, sense of family, etc. through your conversation, confidence, and appearance.

Beautiful humans with boobies are approached very often. If they were super nice to everyone they would waste years of their lives listening to boring men they have no interest in. This would frustrate the woman as well as they guy who has no shot. This is why you must be different (and better) right away.

No matter what her reaction — good or bad — don’t take it personally. If you consistently get poor reactions, you just need to work to get better at showing off your great qualities faster.

Written by HogWild. His Professional Dating Advice videos have 2 million views on youtube. 

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Why Are We Still Single?

Single people, who want partners in Vancouver, face a dilemma: where do you go to find the possibility for love? We have pubs and raves, meet and greets, wine and cheese receptions for work, downtown lunch dating services, and adventure clubs with a twist for romance. Still, with almost half of the Canadian adult population reported as single, how can it be difficult to meet a potential partner?

For those interested in meeting other singles, Vancouver does offer several options. Known for being a healthy city with an environment conducive for outdoor sports and recreation, you can always find something to do. In fact, it’s not that difficult to find people willing to do it with you if you join a hiking or other activity club or even hook up via a Meet Up or community event.

The problem is not in the numbers

We don’t have a problem with the number of singles available, or the potential to meet them, we have a problem with our attractor factor.

Canadian singles don’t need more boob jobs or hair rejuvenation treatments to find someone to love them. The problem is the insidious mindset. Canadians, believing it is better not to assert oneself too much, seek, wish for and weep for love. Online dating, the singles evening pastime has gifted men and women sitting at a computer screen waiting for someone to look at an outdated photo and pick them for love.

Attraction starts from within

Attraction is powerful internal combustion. It is dynamically generated through personal growth, challenge, courage, contentment and joy. Attraction starts with the individual knowing inside them that they bring something to life; that their presence in this world makes a difference, and that others want to enjoy what they bring to the table.
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Rather than sitting in front of the computer waiting for a “message” signal from an online dating site, the attractor single is doing, learning, relaxing but enjoying themselves which in turn sends out a beacon message – “I love life, myself and others. I am able to give and receive love.” Men and women suited to that invisible “morse code” type communication are attracted, and the rest simply unfolds.

Attractor factor singles may visit the same restaurants, bars, libraries or community theater as the desperately seeking singles, but come away with new friends and possible partners lining up to see them again. The magnet is active, and one whole and happy person is allowed to magnetize to themselves others who feel likewise.

Attraction verses endless dating

When a person knows and enjoys their own company, the endless dating rituals become obsolete. These singles are no longer seeking to be entertained, or prevented from loneliness; they can do that for themselves. Instead they greet the world with a inside knowing and comfort level that makes building successful relationships possible.

What is Wrong with Our New Year’s Resolution?

What is wrong with our New Year’s Resolution?

Dreaming and thinking about our goals, and especially writing them down is always good thing to do. It moves us forward. It’s a FIRST step towards achieving those goals.

But unfortunately, very often this first step turns out to be the last one. Why?

Look at the top goals of your list. Are those goals the most important to you, and the most desirable ones? If so, are they also the most delayed ones?

Time is not on our side, because, the stronger the desire for change, the stronger the resistance and procrastination to achieve them. And often we set unrealistic expectations for ourselves.

We fail if we don’t make other changes first, like improving our skills in achieving goals, overcoming procrastination and time management. These might be the patterns that hold us back.

Breaking down the list of BIG GOALS into small achievable steps will help you to achieve those goals. As a result you won`t be overwhelmed with a “big task” but you will organize your thoughts and simplify your life. This works even if you set your goals beyond one year.

Below is a sample of a Life Goals Declaration. Write your future goals in the present tense as if you already achieved them. It’s very important to have and accomplishment date set for holding yourself accountable.

You are welcome to share your own tips and ideas below in the comments area.

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Turn Your Dating Life from Flop to Fabulous

When: Thu, Nov 25th 2010
7pm – 10pm

Where: Serai Social Club
1660 Cypress Street
Vancouver, BC V6J 5J1
604.734.1660

It’s not easy to find great dates in Vancouver! We are busy, and the competition feels enormous. It would be easy to give up IF we didn’t have a dream for ourselves of sharing a loving life with a partner and perhaps a family.

How can you stop wasting time and actually find a great partner; someone you can play with and depend on with your most valued trust?

Join our November meeting at Serai and learn how to optimize your search and bring spice and enjoyment into your dating life. You will also have a chance to practice your learned skills as we mingle after the presentation. Come prepared to have fun!

And the guest speaker at our event is none else but me, Tatiana Antropova, Vancouver’s Dating & Relationship coach, and the owner of Charisma Matters.

Through individual coaching, workshops and seminars I help people to Find Themselves and then Find the One.

Meeting schedule:
7pm – 7.30pm Socializing, food, drinks
7.30pm – 8pm Interactive presentation
8pm – 10pm Socializing, networking

Bring your business cards (if you have one), make friends and mingle. Meet other sophisticated, intelligent like-minded businesspersons who are single and open to new meetings. It’s a fairly quiet atmosphere, which is good for chatting.

See you there,
Tatiana

Meeting New People – Part #5

This is Part #5 of “8 Tips for Making a Great Impression”.
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Put smile on your face
So there’s nothing like a smile to create a good first impression. We usually don’t give much thought to smiles but people who smile are instantly considered friendly and approachable. Smile, and you will get a positive reaction. People would perceive you as open, easy to be with and able to listen individual.

A warm and confident smile will put both you and the other person at ease. It can even help you to hide incompetence and uncertainty. If you are stressed or are trying to deal with some inner crisis, a smile creates an instant change in our attitude.

Smile even when you talk on the phone. People sense it. You can calm down even an upset client when you smile talking to them on the phone.

Make eye contact
Either talking or listening, have eye contact with a person. But try not to stare, slowly break eye-contact from time to time.

Keep your body language open
Uncross everything. Turn towards the people you’re talking to. Your posture should reveal that you have positive attitude towards life, that you are confident and in control of your life. Sometimes it’s hard to maintain the positive attitude if you are nervous or in case of criticism. Learn to face it with dignity and calmness. Try to maintain an upbeat manner and a smile. It will be easier in time if you analyze and learn from your meetings.

Another trick is to match the mood of person you are talking to, at least in the beginning of a conversation. Then – when you both developed an emotional connection you can change a direction to more positive channel.

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Words Are Not that Important – Part #4

This is Part #4 of  “8 Tips for Making a Great Impression”. Read Part #1, Part #2, Part #3

Words are not that important

When it comes to making the first impression, our body speaks much louder than our words. It doesn’t really matter what we say during a conversation. The words form only 7 percent of your communication. The rest 93 percent are in our body language, tone of voice and our appearance.

Manners
If you are late, you are late. There are no ‘good’ excuses. This is when a first impression starts to be formed.  Rarely are there are significant reasons for running late. Usually it’s traffic, or a bad time management. We all know that. Respect other’s people time. They might have a tight schedule and almost broke their neck to be in time.

Your physical appearance matters
We like to say that we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover but we always do. The truth is that no matter how kind, caring, loving person you are – nobody knows that yet!  Your presentation begins to tell your story.

You don’t have to have look like James Bond or Julia Roberts (I am sure look different in a daily life anyways). But you have to look YOUR best. Study up on image & style, update your hair style and wardrobe. Help others want to open the book and learn more about you.

Make a routine: visit your hairstylist, keep a small mirror and a matching lipstick for women, clean and repair your shoes, check your wardrobe – are buttons missing, do you need alterations. Do you need your shirts ironed?

How about your teeth? Did you know that good teeth are in the top “must haves” of people’s checklist when they date? Sell your car, sell your soul, but keep your teeth looking great!

Your clothing communicates
Dress appropriately for an event. You can always find attire that will work for any occasion.  Classics are a great choice when you are unsure.  An image consultant can help you to find appropriate clothing for every occasion you have in your life, based on your age, body shape and personal preferences.

You don’t need to have the most expensive wardrobe but, your appearance should be clean and tidy. Sloppiness and messiness turns people off.

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How to Prepare for an Important Meeting – Part #3

This is Part #3 of  “8 Tips for Making a Great Impression”. Read Part #1, Part #2

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