Who is my Ideal Match?
When it comes to make important decisions in life – buying a house, finding a good place to invest, finding a career path, even looking for a dentist – we do a lot of work. We call our friends, do online research, go to counselors or coaches. We want the best! We want someone with great skill, personality, history, and efficiency.
But when it comes to looking for our life-time partner,
we leave it to chance, or WAIT TO BE CHOSEN.
If you want to meet someone special, a person you like just the way they are, it will take some work on your part.
First, you must discover WHO you are really looking for. I call it my Ideal Match Script.
A long time ago, I dared to ask for what I wanted and developed my “ideal match script.” It took a few months to rewrite and polish it, until I was completely satisfied with it. Every sentence had to resonate with me. I asked questions for each quality I listed :
• Is it really important to me that my partner possesses this quality?
• What if he doesn’t, could I still be happy with him in my life?
It took time to make this list, but I had a really good time doing it. I can relate it to the feeling I have sitting in a good restaurant and ordering something from the menu. I anticipate from the time I order the delicious taste of that exact dish when it arrives. It is my order, and I will get what I order.
This is YOUR call. Think of making an order for a love partner. It can be so exciting!
Here is my own Ideal Match script excerpt:
He is an honest, straightforward guy with a positive attitude and a wonderful warm smile. He plays a musical instrument and often spends time in his studio. He likes to read and recommends good books to me. He likes to cook and makes dinner for both of us. He is rich enough to travel the world. He likes camping but comfort is one of his values. We grow together, we learn together. He loves and adores me.
My partner matches this script at 90% and during our time together he has changed a lot towards matching the last 10%. I live loved.
Your first homework assignment: Start thinking about what you really want. Don’t give the “pat” answers you imagine are expected of a woman your age, or a man with your education. Think about YOU, without self-imposed limitations. If you could have the person of your personal dreams, what would they be like?
Be prepared for many new editions before you finish. This is a process that takes some time and self awareness as well as honesty.